Friends of a Certain Age

Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30?

Here is a snippet of a 3 page article in the NYT on making friends over 30. Those 3 conditions, especially the first 2 are things I miss. Local friends, I call them. They fill a very particular need in this life where I have close friends, BFFs even, all over the world.

As external conditions change, it becomes tougher to meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other, said Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology and gerontology at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. This is why so many people meet their lifelong friends in college, she added.

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